We hated our sergent. Yeah, he was mean to us, over worked us. Still, maybe sometimes thats what being a good leader is. Uniting everybody, to give them someone to hate. In life it seems that we all have a roll to play, some of us are meant to be loved, and some of us unfortunatly are meant to be hated.
Today at work I was told by 3 of the 4 other people I was working with that they didn't really like me. They told me I was very cocky and went on constant power trips. The thing is, to me, the cocky is to make up for the harshness I do to them. I know I am really strict when it comes to work and that, well they probly dont like me no. But maybe that is the only way to be a good leader sometimes, I feel if I dont take charge that chelsea, the real boss, wont and everything will just get done whenever people choose. I feel too responsible while everyone else isn't and that I have to make sure my mignons are on track, if thats yelling at them not to be eating and go bus, then thats what it is. I try not to be a hypocrite at work and with my work ethic, that is something I really work on doing because it is not right for me to tell them something and yet do it myself. And if giving them a reason to not like me is the only way they can get through the night and finish somewhat on time, I am ok with that. I'm willing to let them hate me for the wellness of our business, after all it is for the residence, not us.
Today at work I was told by 3 of the 4 other people I was working with that they didn't really like me. They told me I was very cocky and went on constant power trips. The thing is, to me, the cocky is to make up for the harshness I do to them. I know I am really strict when it comes to work and that, well they probly dont like me no. But maybe that is the only way to be a good leader sometimes, I feel if I dont take charge that chelsea, the real boss, wont and everything will just get done whenever people choose. I feel too responsible while everyone else isn't and that I have to make sure my mignons are on track, if thats yelling at them not to be eating and go bus, then thats what it is. I try not to be a hypocrite at work and with my work ethic, that is something I really work on doing because it is not right for me to tell them something and yet do it myself. And if giving them a reason to not like me is the only way they can get through the night and finish somewhat on time, I am ok with that. I'm willing to let them hate me for the wellness of our business, after all it is for the residence, not us.
6 comments:
So you're saying you prefer to be the badguy? You like your cockiness?
I'm saying if thats what I have to be like in order to be a good leader to them, then yes.
Leading can be done by example- not force. Pulling, not pushing. It's like how elementary classroom rules are always the positive actions, not the: no no no's, people respond to positives better than negatives.
But sometimes what people really need is the tough love, the strick hand coming down on them.
Yes but are you the hand that should be giving it?
They question is not how they need to be lead but who is leading them. Yes they might need tough love but the reason that they might not be responding to it is becuase the wrong person is trying to give it.
Maybe you are stealing someone elses chance to grow and come into their own in their leadership skills? You even said it yourself. You're not the real boss. So maybe the real boss could issue the same tough love and maybe you could be a true leader and help others lead.
True leaders build others up, not tear them down.
More mountains were moved by compliments and examples than a whips and threats.
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